I won't be that girl...

Scenario:  I was walking through the club with my sister on one of the nights I was celebrating my most recent birthday.

*spots ex-boyfriend- the one that is now married with a child*


Me: "Hey, don't I know you?" said with a slight chuckle
Him:  chuckles back "Yea, I came out because I saw on Facebook that you were going to be here.  I tried to text you.  Did you change your number?"
Me: "Yes, I did.  Did you think you would still have access to me more than 6 years after we broke up. Let me give you the new one." *in my defense, I thought it would be safe to give him my contact info because he was married with a child*


*some time later that night...*

Him:  "My friend asked me who you were.  I said my ex-girlfriend and he asked why I let you get away."
Me:  "Dude, you didn't let me go.  I broke up with you, I let you go.  Everything happens for a reason.  How is the wife and child?"
Him: "That could have been you"
Me:  "Everything happens for a reason."


*the night goes on, we danced a bit.  after that night he bbm'ed me here and there.  asked me to a movie once and to dinner another time.  I turned him down both times but did consider going once, I told him that I would consider it.  but once he typed I really hope you do, I said no thanks.  I asked if he was happy in his marriage (since he kept asking me out) to which he replied that he was joking about asking me out.*

*one random day...*

Him: "Saw you're bbm status.  Why are you bored?"
Me: "Eh, just am."
Him: *after giving two other suggestions to help with my boredom* "You should have an affair with a married man"
Me: "What the fudge!!! Hell no I will not sleep with you.  No, thanks.  I'll pass on that one."


*ok, so after that I deleted him from bbm and from my phone address book*

Mistress Vibes...
 Now to be honest, I don't know if he was talking about himself.  Fudge that, that bastard is a bastard!  But it's not the first time a married man has propositioned me.  It has happened more times than I care to count.  I don't get it.  What makes me so damn appealing to a married man?  A couple of these married men after getting shut down by me have tried to remain my friend.  One actually didn't hit up me but stuck up a friendship and it took me longer that I care to admit to until I realize that I was some what of an emotional mistress to him.  Older men also have a thing for me.  Most of the guys that hit on me are 40 and over.  I do date older but I have an age limit of 10 year older than myself and 40 is out of that limit.

Do you think dude in the story was asking me to have an affair with him?  Should older men get the good loving of a woman in her mid-twenties?